Kepa left this morning.
You would think that since our relationship was mostly long distance to begin with that I would be used to being separated. But I’m not. It hurts each time, whether I have to wait 5 months to see him again or just a week.
Our one year anniversary together is coming up next month and in that year we will have only physically spent three months together. Three out of twelve months. That’s crazy.When it’s the right person it’s worth it and long distance is frustrating but not impossible. I always thought long distance relationships were these difficult, impossible things because that’s what everyone I knew told me they were. And I’m sure for some people it is difficult. But when I finally found myself in a relationship with someone across the globe it didn’t seem quite as hard as I thought it would. All those people who struggled in relationships when they lived just a few hours away from each other were struggling because of the relationship, not the distance.
The key to a long distance relationship is communication. I actually think I was lucky to have our relationship begin the way it did because it forced us to communicate more than other couples. When all you have is words, you make use of them. I feel like the fact that we talked so much in the beginning created a very strong foundation for our relationship. I feel like I know Kepa better than anyone else and he most definitely knows me better than anyone else. I’m very grateful that we turned something that could have been a problem for our relationship into a strength.
But despite the positive communication the long distance created, it still sucks to be apart when you are in love.
Luckily this time it’s only one week. Next time it might be a couple months (between my visa running out and the wedding). Either way, it makes me grateful for the time we have and will spend together. It’s easy to take for granted something as simple as just being in the same place, but I will try my hardest to never do that.